Perhaps more importantly, what do you feel? The answer to this question - how do you feel about yourself? is the essence of your emotional, physical, spiritual, psychological and social development.

If you do not love, value and appreciate yourself, how can you truly expect anyone to love, value and appreciate someone as unworthy as you may think you are. More importantly, for your family and loved ones if you do not love, value or appreciate yourself how can you sincerely love another. I truly believe that love extends inwards and then radiates outwards, if there is no love going in how any real love flow out.

I have seen occasions where some men and women have been uncomfortable with looking in the mirror. I have often wondered whether it is because they do not like the way they look, or is that they do not like what they stand for as person.

That last look you take in the mirror before you leave your house can dictate how you feel for the rest of the day. Most people should know that feeling of leaving their house and thinking "I know I look good today". Think back to your interactions with people that day, how good and confident you felt but conversely we also know the feeling of 'I do not want anyone to see me the way I look today'. It's on these days you always need more milk or bread and you quickly pop out to the shop and meet the very people who you did not want to see you.

Of all the judgments that you pass in life, none is as important as the one you pass on yourself. So judge yourself not on superficial features or past mistakes as we all make them. Gain confidence and love for yourself from who you are, the principles you hold, what you can and have achieved and value you add to other people lives... NOW! That's AIM Thinking.